Lesson 1
FEELINGS ARE VERY IMPORTANT
Feelings are a vital part of our nature
Feelings are conveyed by body language
Feelings are the fluid of the river of life
Feelings are like windows to our souls
Feelings cannot be forced to change
Feelings that are not always reliable
Feelings we rate as dangerous
Feelings we try to conceal
Feelings that we rate as safe we share

Lesson 2
FEELINGS AND IDEAS ARE OF EQUAL VALUE
Ideas provide classification for the energy of feelings
Feelings alone or ideas alone make poor judgment
The beginning of feelings and ideas
The first evidence of an idea – a mental image
The development of feelings and ideas
Language becomes a necessity
Expressing feelings with words
People who are focused upon feelings
People who are focused upon ideas
Feeling secure is a prime issue for all ages
Feeling insecure arouses either anger, fear, or guilt
Feeling secure is derived from feeling loved
How fear holds an idea in bondage
Anger generates a negative energy in our bodies
The problem of resolving repressed ideas
Need for a balance between ideas and feelings

Lesson 3
FEELING SECURE, AND THEN, INSECURE
We started life feeling helpless and insecure
Our First persistent Insecurity – hunger
Our First Security after birth – a full stomach
Our Second Insecurity after birth – waiting for service
Our Second Security after birth - hoarding
Our Third Insecurity after Birth – teething
Our Third Security after Birth – feeling loved
Our Fourth Insecurity – discipline
Our Fourth Security – parental delight
Our Fifth Insecurity – self-blame
Our Fifth Security – forgiveness
Our Sixth Insecurity – loss of treasured things
Our Sixth Security – owning property, having space
Our Seventh Insecurity – loss of privilege and rank.
Our Seventh Security – being especially loved
Our Eighth Insecurity – losing in Competition
Our Eighth Security – that one’s best is good enough
Our Ninth Insecurity – losing admiration of others
Our Ninth Security – being married to the right person
Our Ultimate Insecurity – not being right with God
Our Ultimate Security – being accepted by God
True security is not self-generated

Lesson 4
FEELING INSECURE IS REVEALED IN THREE WAYS
We may display insecurity by being angry
We may display insecurity by being afraid
We may display insecurity by guilt feelings
THE DEVELOPMENT OF ANGER FEELINGS
Waiting causes aggressive reactions
Disappointment causes an angry reaction
Rejection causes an angry reaction
Frustration causes an angry reaction
Losing property causes an angry reaction
Losing in competition causes an angry reaction
Losing position causes a HURT type of anger
Losing love to another causes jealousy
Futility is a general source of anger
Three types of anger: Greed, Envy, Jealousy
THE DEVELOPMENT OF FEAR FEELINGS
THE DEVELOPMENT OF GUILT FEELINGS

Lesson 5
DIFFERENT MENTAL ATTITUDES THAT DEVELOP
Three attitude types: Positive, Pseudo-Pos., Negative
Three different question influence mental attitude
Security determines our mental attitude
1- The positive mental attitude
2- The pseudo-positive mental attitude
3- The negative mental attitude
More to say about the pseudo-positive attitude
Four ways this facade is maintained
This facade can cause hurt and confusion
Everyone appreciates genuineness in another

Lesson 6
POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE ATTITUDES CONTRASTED
Positive and negative mental attitudes contrasted
Look inward to understand the contrast better
Faith, hope, and love explained
Love of parents preserves inner well being
Responsibility harnesses self-sovereignty
Love develops harmony within the child
Love demands sexual purity
Two mental attitudes described in James 3:10-4:4
Love is the key to good mental development
Godly love is ideal and farsighted
Godly love helps overcome infantile illusions
Godly love promotes true security
True security helps us to manage disappointments
BRIEF SUMMARY
Five ways a positive attitude is displayed
Five ways a negative attitude is displayed

Lesson 7
A NEGATIVE ATTITUDE IS SUSTAINED BY ILLUSIONS, Part I
Negative attitude people have defensive thinking
Why we are so prone to a negative mental attitude
Wise parents allow their child to feel like a person
1- The illusion of being self-entitled
2- The illusion of being self-sovereign
3- The illusion of being loved for being good
4- The illusion of being bad and worthless
Sexual molestation is a cause of sexual disfunction

Lesson 8
A NEGATIVE ATTITUDE IS SUSTAINED BY ILLUSIONS, Part II
5- The illusion of being disadvantaged
6- The illusion of the being invincible
7- The illusion of being self-righteous
8- The illusion of being advantaged
9- The illusion of being inferior
10- The illusion of life being meaningless
All ten illusions are interrelated
Three basic illusions
Seven are derived from the three basic illusions

Lesson 9
A NEGATIVE ATTITUDE GENERATE ABSURD BEHAVIOR
Earthquake destroyed part of the Bay Bridge
1- Absurdity of being self-entitled
2- Absurdity of being self-sovereign
3- Absurdity of feeling loved for being good
4- Absurdity of feeling bad and worthless
5- Absurdity feeling disadvantaged
6- Absurdity of feeling invincible
7- Absurdity of feeling self-righteous
8- Absurdity of feeling advantaged
9- Absurdity of feeling inferior
10- Absurdity of feeling life is meaningless

Lesson 10
HOW TO OVERCOME A NEGATIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE
To overcome a negative attitude, find new security
1- Our limited perception of reality
2- Our limited perception of our environment
3- Our limited perception of almighty God.
God is invisible and all powerful: fear of Him
We dread to face our sin and seek forgiveness
God has ordained that we choose to accept Christ
II. Various sources of emotional security
1- Security offered by human love
2- Security that is self-generated
3- Security that is offered by God’s grace
Three facts about God that are vital to our security
(1) God is sovereign, the almighty
(2) God is holy and good in the absolute sense
(3) God is love, agape quality love
III. Correct infantile illusions – be realistic
1- Correct being self-entitled
Denying self means giving up entitlement
2- Correct being self-sovereign
Taking Christ as Lord is corrective., James 4:10-17
3- Correct feeling loved because of being good
We correct loneliness and other problems
4- Correct feeling bad and worthless
Accept the significance God gives you
5- Correct feeling disadvantaged
Christ is with you to do you Good
6- Correct feeling invincible
Follow Christ – take no unnecessary chances
7- Correct being self-righteous
We are only right as we agree with God’s Word
8- Correct feeling advantaged
We only have what God has given
9- Correct feeling inferior
Inferiority never should relate to character
10- Correct feeling that life is meaningless

Lesson 11
HOW TO GET RID OF ANGER, GUILT, AND FEAR
Defensive energy is manifested by anger, fear, guilt
We are instructed by God to get rid of anger
Christ has removed our basic insecurity
Christ gives us victory over our defensiveness
Negative defensive energy takes many forms
Four general types of anger to overcome.
1- Manipulative self-pity, overcoming
1a- Genuine self-pity, overcoming
2- Disappointment
Aggressive, manipulative, passive, or self-pity
Overcoming disappointment anger
3- Frustration
Overcoming frustration anger
4- Hurt emotionally
Hurt is different from disappointment
SEVEN STEPS in GETTING RID of HURT-TYPE ANGER
1- REALIZE: Feeling hurt means you are angry
2- ADMIT to yourself that you are angry
3- REFUSE to enjoy your anger
4- DISOWN your assumed right to stay angry
5- SURRENDER all anger feelings to Jesus
6- OPEN YOURSELF to feeling love for offender.
7- COMPANION WITH GOD coping with situation
This security slows down angry responses
True story to illustrate that this works
How to discover if you are really angry
First, are you feeling self-pity?
Second, identify your feelings, use S D F H
How to overcome fear and anxiety
How to resolve true and false guilt

Lesson 12
FEELING POSITIVE HAS AN ILLUSIVE SABOTEUR
Envy is a subtle saboteur of our destiny
Envy’s beginnings
First displayed when children quarrel over toys
Envy usually dampens ambition
Envy has an obscure deceptive factor
Envy often sponsors emotional depression
Envy has several close relatives
Envy often underlies our criticism of others
Envy can cause guilt for having an advantage
Envy is a very destructive type of anger
1- Envy may create a hazard on the highway
2- Envy may cheat to gain an advantage
3- Envy may steal from a friend
4- Envy may tell a lie
5- Envy may tend to feel like a victim
6- Envy may tend to hate
7- Envy may tend to label others as inferior
8- Envy may even commit adultery
9- Envy lies at the heart of loneliness
10-Envy may commit many crimes
Envy is a most ungodly emotion
Envy perceives God as evil.
Envy promotes our infantile illusions
Envy denies the existence of God
We need to give God real veto power
Patiently enduring losses builds Christian character
Envy is frequently mentioned in the Bible
1- Envy is a device of the devil
2- Envy was used by the devil in the Garden
3- Envy leaves God out of our thinking
Envy is uprooted by accepting God’s love
The Lord’s Supper reminds us of victory

Lesson 13
BEING GRATEFUL AFFIRMS TRUE SECURITY
Meaning of “being grateful.”
Meaning of “true security.”
True security is offered by God.
We must deny our illusions; We can’t fool God
We take up our cross – Christ’s atonement as ours.
We deny our infantile illusions in three ways
Infantile illusions maintain our insecurity
Christ removed our main source of insecurity
God’s Word reveals our true security
Faith in God corrects our soul’s insecurities
Comfort describes a state of being secure
The human dilemma is always at hand
Thanksgiving and true security go together
It is consistent to rejoice in the grace of God
God supplies the wisdom we need
There is a right and a wrong way to think
One way leads to life; the other to death
Gratitude to God affirms our true security
1- Gratitude gives to God the praise due His Name
2- Gratitude stops our tendency to follow illusions
3- Gratitude makes us available to His Holy Spirit.
4. Gratitude brings a little bit of heaven to earth